Ready to put yourself first—without guilt?

Hello Growth Seekers,

Let’s be honest—saying “no” isn’t easy. Whether it’s fear of disappointing someone, feeling like you’ll come off as unkind, or worrying about conflict, we often find ourselves saying “yes” when our heart is begging us to say “no.”

But here’s the truth: constantly putting others ahead of yourself doesn’t make you a better person. It just makes you tired, overwhelmed, and distant from the life God is calling you to.

Today, we’re diving into how saying “no” can be one of the most loving things you can do for yourself—and for others. Together, we’ll unpack why people-pleasing happens, how to start breaking the cycle, and how saying “no” can lead to a life of freedom and authenticity in God’s purpose.

If this speaks to your heart, keep reading—and don’t forget to hit subscribe so you don’t miss the next steps in this series!

Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No--
People-pleasing often comes from a place of fear—fear of rejection, judgment, or letting someone down. Maybe you’ve told yourself, “It’s easier to just say yes,” but each “yes” to something that doesn’t align with your values is a “no” to yourself.

Here’s what I want you to know: Saying “no” doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you intentional.

Setting boundaries doesn’t push people away; it protects your peace and allows you to show up fully where it matters most.

What God Says About Boundaries

God created you with a purpose, and that purpose deserves protection.

Proverbs 4:23 reminds us: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Saying “no” is an act of guarding your heart and honoring the priorities God has placed in your life.

When you say “no” with kindness and clarity, you’re saying “yes” to God’s best for you.

Your Next Move

This week, try this simple exercise to start practicing the power of “no.” Grab your journal.

Step 1: Reflect

Think about a time you said “yes” recently, even though you didn’t want to. What motivated your response? Fear? Obligation? Guilt?

Step 2: Recognize

Identify one area in your life where you’re overcommitted or feeling stretched thin.

Step 3: Respond

Commit to saying “no” once this week to something that doesn’t align with your values or priorities. Practice this phrase:
“Thank you for thinking of me, but I’m not able to take that on right now.”

Inspirational Thought for Today

Here’s a gentle reminder for you:

“Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.” – Claudia Black

It’s okay to set boundaries. It’s okay to prioritize your well-being. And it’s absolutely okay to protect your peace. You’re not being selfish; you’re honoring your time, your energy, and the purpose God has placed in your life.

Repeat this affirmation to yourself today:
“I am allowed to protect my time, my peace, and my purpose without guilt.”

You deserve to live a life that feels aligned with your values and brings you closer to God’s plan for you. Saying no isn’t about pushing people away; it’s about creating space for the things that truly matter.

Take a deep breath and know you’re doing the right thing—one step at a time.

Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

I’d love to hear from you—what’s the hardest part of saying “no” for you? Is it the fear of disappointing someone? The guilt that creeps in afterward? Whatever it is, you’re not alone, and sharing your thoughts can be the first step toward growth. Hit reply and let me know. Let’s support each other as we learn to set boundaries and embrace the freedom of “no.”

If this newsletter has been helpful, don’t keep it to yourself—share it with a friend who might need a little encouragement today. We’re all in this together!

What’s Coming Up?

This is just the beginning of our Power of No series. Here’s what’s next:

Part 2: Saying No Without Guilt: Practical Tips for Boundaries

Part 3: Building Confidence in Your No

Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss a single step of this empowering journey.

You’re doing amazing work, friend. One “no” at a time, you’re creating space for the life God wants for you.

With Faith and encouragement,

Shawnda—